12 Years
12 years
I’ve heard it all.
Before people even met her:
“She’s too young”
“She’s going to change”
“She’s going to rebel and resent you”
“She’s going to cheat on you”
“She’s going to want to go wild one day”
“What could you even have in common?”
“Did you knock her up?”
Once they met her:
“Ok yeah man she’s seriously the sweetest person I’ve ever met”
“Wow is she really always that nice”
“Yeah she’s beautiful but she’s young, let’s see how she looks when she gets older”
“Wow good job dude”
“I’m proud of you, I thought maybe you just wanted to be with her because she’s pretty, now that I’ve met her I know that you want to be with her because she’s literally the best person ever”
“Tiffany is like the female version of Jesus”- somebody literally said this lol
Once we got married:
“Beautiful wedding! Now comes the hard part you actually have to live with each other”
“Enjoy your honeymoon, it’s all downhill from there”
“How are y’all doing? Ok that’s cool. It’s easy for everyone in the beginning, just wait until after your honeymoon phase. Then it really gets hard”
“Just wait until after the first year”
“Just wait until after the second year”
Just wait until after the third year”- literally someone had some prophetic curse to utter about every year after marriage when it would instantly get really hard”
“Of course it’s still easy you don’t even have kids”
“When are y’all gonna have kids?”
“How come you haven’t had kids yet?”
Literally as soon as we had our first child:
“Congrats! When are you going to have another? You don’t want to wait too long!”
“Congrats! When are you going to have another? You don’t want them too close”
“How many are y’all gonna have?”
“Man I can’t believe y’all want to bring a kid in this world”
“You are going to get her vaccinated right?”
“You aren’t going to get her vaccinated right?”
“Now life really gets hard, try to enjoy what you can”
When we had baby #2:
-all of the same comments from #1 plus:
“man that must be hard”
“I couldn’t do it”
“Kids are too expensive”
“You’re going to have to sacrifice attention with the first, make sure you try to still give her attention”
“That’s cool. It might be selfish but I just want more time and resources for myself”
Baby#3:
“Man what are you thinking”
“I’m kinda jealous”
“Bless y’all’s heart”
“Now you’re outnumbered!”
“Man what you trying to do start a football team”
“That’s cool but so and so I know have like 6, that’s when you really have a big family”
“I guess it’s ok to have more of your own, just sad to think about all those kids out there who don’t have a family. Adoption would really be the better option”
Man I’m telling you. If I listened to all the haters out there I would have missed out on so much joy and love. 12 years ago I married Tiffany and we have not had the tragic ups and downs that seem to plague so many others. It breaks my heart to hear so many sad stories when ours has been so wonderful. It’s not that life is just easy for us by any means. We’ve had and continue to have difficult seasons and the complexities of life keep adding up and getting even more complicated. With so many out there who are ready to curse you and your relationship with your spouse and your families let me be one voice to speak a word of encouragement.
I break off all word curses spoken against me or my marriage or my spouse or my finances or my family or our health. I break off those curses off of your life too in Jesus name.
It is possible to grow in love and trust and to continue loving and trusting each other even more!
You don’t have to recover from damaging trust if you simply don’t damage trust.
Men, you have to protect your family, and that’s not just having a gun in the house, it starts with protecting the sanctity of your marriage by resisting temptation. Stay away from porn. Fill yourself with the word of God and His holy spirit. Resist the devil. Know that he wants to steal, kill, and destroy everything that is precious. He is a roaring lion looking for anyone that he can devour. He comes at you subtlety though. Win the small battles. Divert your eyes. Don’t look twice. Don’t masturbate. Watch how much your desire for the wife you have increases and watch how much intimacy returns and watch how close you become and watch how much your communication improves and watch how much you begin to forgive each other and watch how much peace stays in your home. Watch how your entire family and future generations are blessed simply by you putting God first and resisting evil temptations.
In reality, Tiffany makes it all easy for me. She is insanely beautiful. What more could I want? She is so kind and sweet I feel horrible making her feel the slightest bit of sadness so I really try to watch my words. She is open with communication so we work stuff out really quickly so negativity doesn’t have a chance to build and fester and create bitterness. She is an amazing mom and I’m constantly amazed at how she manages so much with so much grace. It’s really hard with so many Little’s but they are so healthy and blessed. I’m so thankful.
Happy 12th anniversary my love! Thank you for this beautiful beautiful life that we have created together. I cherish you more than I can express. No matter what fear the world tries to put on us we just keep on pushing forward and the Lord just keeps blessing us. Thank you for being courageous with me and thank you for simply being the best wife I could ever have hoped for.
I always said I would be with someone for 5 years before I married them. I was with Tiffany only 5 months before I proposed.
The truth is I knew the first time I met her that she would be the perfect wife for me and mother to my children. The only question was if she would like me and want to be with me too. I’m so blessed that her answer was yes and that she continues to choose me. I love you Tiffany
ForeverMoore
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